If you say you're gonna...

As some people know, I am the 2nd VP on my son's PTA. I love being on the board and my primary function is fundraising. Last week was our kick off and I was "supposed to" have help from another board member with collating materials and dividing packets between classes. A very big task for 2 people. Our meeting time was 9am, I of course was there at 8:45 just to be able to have a minute to check my mail and read notes we leave each other. At 9:15 this other person still hasn't shown up. So, I take it upon myself to start collating. I finished this task at 10:50 and the chick still hadn't shown up. I check my cellphone for missed calls and messages only to find NONE. So, I start dividing the packets according to class size, teacher and grade. I finish at about noon and my "helper" still hasn't shown up nor has she even bothered to pick up a phone to call anyone. By 1pm all of the collating, dividing, labeling and distribution is complete and I am about to sign out and go home. It's been a REALLY long morning an I'm a little annoyed. No sooner that I cross my 't' and dot my 'i' does this wench show up and says "do you ever feel like something is trying to keep you from being where you need to be?" and proceeds to go into this VERY long winded story about her morning... of which I couldn't care less. I interupt her to inform her that ALL of the work is done and that I am now leaving. She makes a pouty face and lets out a big sigh. For this I have no response except to say I'll be back on Wednesday to put together our flyer for distribution on Thursday. She says to me that she will do it for me, if I don't mind. It's her way of making up for missing this appointment. I agree (with great amounts of reservation) to let her do this fairly small task. SO, Thursday rolls around and there is NO PTA FLYER in the take home packet that has been sent home. WHAT THE HELL!!! So, I call her to see if she went to the school to copy the flyer. She makes this HUGE excuse for why she couldn't do it and only partially apologizes when I ask her why she didn't call me so that I could go do it!!! So, now we are a week behind in letters and I am PISSED OFF! I begin to tell her that if there is EVER a time that she cannot do something for ANY reason, she NEEDS to call ME so that I can get it done. This is just common courtesy people! This is a grown woman who is older than I am with kids older than mine who has NO reguard for other people or their time. How self involved can one person be? If you say you're gonna do something .... than DO IT!

It doesn't have to be like this...

I am so tired and frustrated with my kids, my husband and my life right now. My kids are wild and I can't figure out why or how. They are usually really well behaved but the past week has been just plain awful! My daughter (age 3) has been coloring on the walls, cutting her hair, cutting her barbies hair, acting out and being plain old ugly in general. My son who is usually
very well behaved has been sassy and disobedient (I hate that word). I'm not sure what has gotten into them but it needs to go back to the way things are supposed to be. My husband has been a total ass lately. He's rude and inconsiderate, short tempered and just an all around pain in my ass. With all of this going on I am no ray of sunshine either. I can feel the tension and the stress building from dealing with these people and their attitudes. I'm hoping that it's just some kind of planetary adjustment and that it will all shift back into rightful zones relatively soon. I'm not sure that I can take much more. I have laid down the law with the kids, straighten up and act right or you're about to start losing privileges like video games, sleep overs, tv time, etc. With my son, it seems to be working (he's almost 9) but my daughter is a mess. She doesn't want to listen, she doesn't want to bend at all. I'm thinking she's just testing boundaries while trying to become more independent. I just hoping she gets over it soon. As for my husband outside of work stress and having no outlet, I just assume not interact with him a all. Speaking in his direction causes arguments and "pissy dances" and I'm just not interested. I'm just trying to do what I have to do to make it through a day with my sanity intact.